Sunrise Time: Rise And Grind

You’re probably saying to yourself, what the hell does sunrise time have to do with anything? Everything and nothing. Most of the greatest turning points, have a threshold. The threshold is the turning point from problem to solution. I like to label it, Sunrise Time. This is the point of waking up from your “sleep” with the drive that cannot stop.

All of us have dreams, goals. Something that we reach for, something that we are willing to do anything to achieve. We have something that we have always felt that it was destiny, or that we were “made” to do. Each individual has a unique, personally tailored dream. A goal to work towards with the expectation that all our problems will be solved and true happiness will be achieved.

What is your goal? How are you working toward it each day? Are there things that you prioritize over the pursuit of your dream? Or do you live your life to ensure that the dream is fulfilled?

We need to make sure that we are taking steps in the right direction each day toward this goal instead of leaving it as a landmark in the distance that may or may not end up in the journey. When we have an outlined plan, executing it becomes more of a reality than wishful thinking. Take your dream, research how others have done similar things, outline a plan , create smaller checkpoint goals that help reassure that you’re on the correct path and make the right sacrifices.

If you’re trying to be a world class bodybuilder, than maybe your love of sugar needs to be sacrificed. Your daily wants and impulses SHOULD NOT prioritize over your goal. If you truly want your dream then giving up the unnecessary should be easy. If you want to be a world class marathon runner, then maybe your 4 beers every night has to be eliminated. If you want to be a concert pianist, maybe you should practice piano instead of spending 4 hours on facebook.

What are you willing to sacrifice for your true happiness?

Eliminate Distractions:

Use Checkpoints & Small Goals:

How To Gain Power Over Intrusive Thoughts

So picture this… you are standing on a platform at a train station, you then get an intrusive thought coming in but instead of allowing the thought to take over your brain, you watch the thought board the train and simply go away 🚂 🧠
This is a simple little exercise you can use when you get a thought and it has already worked for me once this morning 💡
Sometimes it’s difficult to let it go because you want to obsess over it, hence why the illness is called OCD but you have to remember that because it’s an illness, it means the thought isn’t real 🤷🏽‍♀️
It’s a funny little thing right 🙄

When You’re Hurting…

When someone has hurt us, at the time it feels like the best thing to, is get even and hurt them back. This eye for an eye type of thinking is very outdated, and useless. When someone hurts you, and you retaliate…. do you really feel better? Attacking negativity with negativity, only prolongs the pain. Hurting others only expands the hurt in yourself. It does not assist in it going away. When someone brings you down, your goal is to deal with the emotions that they have caused you, and respond positively to give the least amount of power to the negativity. Just because the sting may not subside for a while, when you deal with it properly from the start, it eases the moving on process. It may seem foreign, but when a friend or loved one brings you down…

Do you want to keep the relationship? Or do you want to begin the destruction of it?

Sometimes people are the cause of our hurting, without realizing how their words have effected us. So instead of continuing the cycle of pain, let them know how you feel and work through it with them. If working through it with them doesn’t work, then sometimes the best option is temporary space. Either way, when you choose to embrace negativity and lash back at others, you never feel better about it, you’re only prolonging the hurt for you.

When you’re caught up in pain. Whether you’re stuck in a rough patch in life; taking care of a dying family member, you yourself are very I’ll, at a job that makes you miserable, or being tormented by others…You have no right take it out on others, nor should you want to.

When you are hurting from whatever reason, the best thing you can do, is consciously look for positivity and consciously try to speak positivity.It is always especially difficult at this time.But if your negative experiences elsewhere, trickle into the unaffected areas, things only get worse. Put in that extra effort when you are around others to be positive and it truly will help you deal with your other circumstances.

Anyways, no one deserves to have you mistreat them because you’re having a bad day. You can always try to vent and blow off some steam, but there is a right way to do that without attacking those trying to help.Choosing to look for light when you are surrounded by darkness, will pay off in time and the light will outshine the dark.

Dealing With Emotions: Venting & Lashing Out

It is understandable to feel out of control when dealing with difficult emotions when they are at an all time high.Choosing your words wisely can be very difficult and to the person who is listening, it can sound like you’re attacking them personally.The best way when you are trying to vent, is let that other person know. “I need to vent” and throwing in a “please don’t take any of this personally if it seems like I’m attacking you.”When venting, sometimes we use general statements, like “people always” or “people never” Which can make the other person feel targeted. As the person who is being an ear for someone who is hurting, if they do not specify whether they need a solution or for you just to listen, ask. Dealing with heavy emotional situations, they usually do not need to be rationalized or solved by the other person.Just listen and be empathetic.And for the person venting, try your best not to attack your peer. It may cause an unintentional snowball, stressing the both of you out more.

The 5 W’s of Venting:

1. Wait. When you feel triggered, commit yourself to giving some time for the situation to process. In other words, allow that prefrontal cortex to make sense of it all. Angry at a driver? You can choose not to act on your initial reaction . First, a minute to just breathe and let the moment pass.

2. Why? Practice not jumping to conclusions. We are very good at labeling situations and condemning people on a moment’s notice. But what if we just couldn’t see the dog sitting in the road just in front of that car that was taking so long to turn? What if their car stalled and they just needed a few seconds to restart it? 

Read the rest of this amazing article: Tell us how you prefer your friends/peers to help when you are upset.