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Feeling Unwanted, Unloved? Do this…

Feeling Unloved,Feeling Unwanted... Do This

  Journaling is one of the best types of calming methods/coping mechanisms that i’ve seen. Therapists that I’ve worked with highly recommended to every single one of their patients. Many people swear by it, myself i’m not the best at it.My journaling usually just becomes short notes and but we’ll get into that. The point is today we’re going to talk about this incredible method of calming your mind and easing those emotions, it’s journaling.  The great thing about journaling that I really want to touch on is just taking whatever is up in your mind box and putting it out there into the real world on the paper.

 

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  Now some of you may know, when you talk out a problem it sometimes makes more sense when you verbalize it. It’s almost the same thing, you can actually just start writing out what is going wrong and it can you detach from what’s happening to you when putting it right on paper. Once it’s on that paper now you can work with it, now it’s information that is out there for you to try to view it subjectively. 

  That is a beautiful point where you can actually make some change or realize that you know something that you’re dwelling on, i’m not saying it is not a big of a deal or maybe you actually realize that it doesn’t have as much importance.  Or you realize the problem is manageable whatever it is you’re going to come to your own conclusion while writing things out but you’ll realize that writing it out does have the potential to help.

 

 

  If you don’t want to write out what’s going on, then you can actually journal about positive things. I mean why not
journal about positive things, that’s unheard of. (sarcasm) You can actually journal about things that you’re grateful for. I usually start my day with a 5 to 10 list of things I’m grateful for. I try to go from tangible to intangible things Obviously i’m going to be grateful that I have a roof over my head but then I want to be grateful for the positive relationships that I have with my significant other.

  I try to focus on something that I have an emotional tie to, so the more specific we get, the more makes you feel better because you’re going into those emotions instead of staying stuck in the kind of crappy emotion you’re in right now.Not only can you journal about positive things and the negative things that are going on, you can also just write stories. 

 

   I love writing stories. As kids we may have loved hearing ridiculous stories that our parents have told us, some of you may not, some of you may love listening to your parents read your textbooks or something. The point is, make a story make a story of something funny, something scary, a romance novel do whatever just start

writing.

 

 

 

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  Knowing that you have something that you can go to whenever you’re feeling stressed out you can remember “oh I can go and work on my story” and then you can get immersed in that world that you’re creating yourself. You get to have the control over everything and having control in one aspect it may be just a small little world that you created but having that control really is beneficial to your emotions, it does help out a lot.

 

  The last two wonderful things I want to touch on for journaling is really just write down things you like, it could be the color blue, it could be flowers, it could be lamp, it could be anything just just write down something that you like.That can make you feel better. Don’t write one thing don’t just write two things, make a list of lots of lists of things that you like. That’s gonna point out that there are things in this world that make you happy because sometimes when you’re feeling depressed, anxious, like you hate the world…sometimes the greatest thing to do is point out the things that you like even if it’s a few.

  The other thing that is fantastic to journal about is things that you look forward to so it could be something that you’re going to do that you’re excited about. It may be even going to just your niece’s basketball game, but it’s something that you are looking forward to. You can also include your goals as the things you look forward to.Write down your goals every single day, so you have something to go to and you can say look this is what I want. Then you can make a plan say okay, now this is what i’m going for.

When you’re feeling bad and you’re focusing on where you want to be or what you want to do, sometimes it helps you get through it.    

 

  Especially if you’re in school right now, you got four years, six years, eight years, having that reminder can help you feel closer to that end goal and give hope. Feeling better can be a huge mountain to look at but when we add these coping skills to our tool belt, each day has the possibility of getting easier.

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Bottling It Up Works Super Well

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Why Am I Like This?

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Bottling It Up Works Super Well

Bottling It Up Doesn't Work

  We’re going to focus on one of those negative coping skills that is honestly one of the worst things that you can do. I know that sounds dramatic but it honestly is, besides using drugs or alcohol to cope with your emotions. Ignoring your emotions altogether honestly that is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. Ignoring, pretend like it’s not happening and just bottling it up is not helpful. 

  Emotions aren’t those things that can just go away if you stop focusing on them, they don’t just disappear.They may subside or lessen for the time being but unless you deal with what’s going on, they’ll just keep coming back and coming back and the next time it comes back it could be worse.

 

 

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  If you ignore it, it’s still there, the problem does not just magically get handed off to the problem fairy who takes care of it and then tomorrow you wake up and there’s no more issue. A problem gets solved when you deal with it. Dealing with your emotions is a more difficult battle because usually it involves getting to the root of that emotion, initially what the is cause, what is the trigger and then finding ways to cope with it.

  Getting assistance outside of yourself works well because you don’t have to do it alone, there are people that you can talk to whether that be a professional, a friend or whether that just be a peer who understands what you’re going through. No matter what is you need to find the proper way to deal with your emotions

 

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It’s like if you were a kid first time driving mom’s car and you just so happened to dent it and it looks dreadful. Instead of letting her know and dealing with it, you’re gonna try and hide it by parking the car in a strategic spot so your mom doesn’t see it . Then when she finally sees it, you say “oh my, what happened, what happened somebody hit your car mom.” The problem wasn’t dealt with, she knows you lying and you still feel like crap for denting your mom’s car.When a problem is not dealt with, it persists until there is an explosion. I know that was just a terrible example sorry but you get my point.

 

  If you take anything away from what I said today, do not bury it down do not bottle it up. Open up talk to somebody look for help. Looking for help does not mean always going to the hospital and finding a therapist. Getting help means finding somebody to talk to or finding youtube videos and figuring out also what calms you what makes you happy and what helps.

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Feeling Unwanted, Unloved? Do this…

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Feeling Unloved,Feeling Unwanted… Do This   Journaling is one of the best types of calming methods/coping mechanisms that i’ve seen. Therapists that I’ve worked with

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Bottling It Up Works Super Well

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Why Am I Like This?

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Why Am I Like This?

Why Am I Like This?

We’re really going to address how family can be the most toxic thing in your life. Now when I say that i’m not saying that all families are toxic, that is obviously a very bold statement. What i’m trying to say is that the family dynamic can have a lot of influence on anybody involved. There are different aspects of this dynamic that can lead to many mental illnesses that are emotional based and some psychosis based as well.

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When you look at your family, they are technically the closest human beings to you. Closest in proximity, in your relationships, and closest based off of time. For the most part, the family is who you’ve been with since day one, not only that, the’ve been responsible for your upbringing. Many of you may know the first five to seven years your life, your brain’s like a sponge, soaking up everything from your surroundings. For the beginning years of your life, your family is it, that is your life, your way of survival is your family. They are also your school. 

   Teaching your social skills and how they treat you for many years of your life may be the way you perceive as normal. Think about that.

 

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  The horrible fact about this is this is where you truly get your self-worth from. If you were treated poorly, you may see this is the norm and you also identify that as the treatment you expect to receive. When you go out into the real world, that’s what you look for. People don’t look for abusive relationships but they find the people that are most like their family members. The subconscious and conscious mind correlate the negative behavior with the norm of how they’re supposed to be treated, no matter how wrong it is.

  A family truly has the ability to make someone’s life easier or extremely difficult so be conscious because your words in your family carry more weight than you’ll ever know. If i’m speaking to a parent right now, be conscious of the way you talk to your children. That is the most important thing in the world. You are defining their value of themselves and their understanding of how the world is.

 

  If you have a child, you are taking care of a young person, or if you’re taking care of anybody, you treat them with love and respect. That will ensure the type of individual you will put out into the world, shows love and respect and looks for that in their relationships.If not, a toxic parent or toxic family members can make or break someone’s perceptions, making life more difficult for them. It is not guaranteed to ruin anyones life, but takes more time for them to change their perceptions on the world and they need to have better people come around.

 

  If you take anything from what I said today, show your family love. You never know how much your words mean to your family members and to your young ones make sure that they see the best that they see the right way to treat others. Teach them that they are valuable that they matter because later on in their life it will make a big difference

 

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Feeling Unwanted, Unloved? Do this…

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Feeling Unloved,Feeling Unwanted… Do This   Journaling is one of the best types of calming methods/coping mechanisms that i’ve seen. Therapists that I’ve worked with

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Bottling It Up Works Super Well

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Why Am I Like This?

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How About We Stop Saying

Stop Saying

You know those things that people say that you’re just like, “why do you think that is socially acceptable to say that?”
We’re gonna address those. People sometimes make just the wrong comments when it comes to our personalities, our bodies, our
appearance. They may think they’re being nice or helpful when really they’re just being kind of an ass.

how about we stop saying

“you should eat more”
“looking a little thin”
“maybe you shouldn’t eat so much”
“maybe you should watch your portion size”
“oh my gosh you’re wasting away”
“you know I got this wonderful remedy for facial acne it will clear that right up in a week”
“did you know charcoal is super good for cleaning out the yellow teeth and all the plaque and whatnot?”
By now I think you get the point, all of these comments are coming from a well-intentioned place but these are pretty hurtful comments especially if you’re dealing with self-image issues. These comments are really just unnecessary.

 

If someone doesn’t ask, don’t make the comment. There’s a rule, it’s if you cannot fix the issue within 30 seconds then don’t make a comment about it.That means if it is about someone’s body weight, about a skin condition, about a stutter anything that cannot be fixed in 30 seconds then there is no need for the comment. It’s absolutely okay to say hey you got a little something hanging right there in your teeth, or you got something on your shirt or your zipper’s undone, depending.

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If you take anything away from today, there is no reason to be making comments about things that people cannot fix immediately.

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Feeling Unloved,Feeling Unwanted… Do This   Journaling is one of the best types of calming methods/coping mechanisms that i’ve seen. Therapists that I’ve worked with

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Bottling It Up Works Super Well

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Bottling It Up Doesn’t Work   We’re going to focus on one of those negative coping skills that is honestly one of the worst things

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Why Am I Like This?

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Why Am I Like This? We’re really going to address how family can be the most toxic thing in your life. Now when I say

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How About We Stop Saying

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Stop Saying You know those things that people say that you’re just like, “why do you think that is socially acceptable to say that?”We’re gonna

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Alcohol And Mental Health

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Alcohol And Mental Health   Alcohol, So many people seem to love it. It seems like where I grew up everybody loved alcohol there was

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You Don’t Need To Fix Me

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Alcohol And Mental Health

Alcohol And Mental Health

  Alcohol, So many people seem to love it. It seems like where I grew up everybody loved alcohol there was maybe two or three people that I knew that I can count that actually didn’t drink, believe it or not I actually didn’t have my first sip of alcohol until right before 21 years old, it was like two months before my birthday and actually the reason why I did it was because my one of my teammates that I was close to had passed away, my grandmother passed away and my aunt passed away within two months of each other.
It was a lot and I thought maybe a little bit of alcohol could help.

 

   I never used it before, never drank the stuff never cared for it. I have alcoholism in my family so I see what it does to people, but I was like you know what I can try it for myself and see what it’s like. I was thinking I deserve a little bit during this rough time right?

 

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   The problem is, how easy it can get out of hand. Some of you may know the times when you are emotionally drinking it gets out of hand, but then it is usually ever better afterwards right? No it’s usually a lot worse, usually if you’re having a crappy day or you’re having a crappy month or a crappy year and you add alcohol to it, it definitely doesn’t not make things better. Maybe for
a moment you feel a little bit better but i’m pretty sure the decisions you make and how you physically feel afterwards, do not make it worth it.

 

  When you feel like alcohol is something you need to go to especially when you’re upset, you need to be conscious of that, start removing it from the house, remove the temptation, stop yourself from going out to drink. We have to make the plan to stop ourself from doing something that’s counter productive to your emotions. When your body thinks,” oh yeah I can deal with this stress because i’m about to go have a drink anyways.’ You are not developing any type of coping mechanisms beside pushing it off to the side and pushing it down and guess what, you know the answer, it does not help.

 

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  Alcohol is never a good coping mechanism. I’m sorry to say this but a lot of my co-workers from the medical field used to drink after work. It can be very emotionally draining if you’re in the mental health field, or any type of first responder, and you’ve had a rough day after 8, 16 hours, 20 hours of working with people who are experiencing the worst times of their life, their emotions are all time high, they’re feeling terrible. 

  All of that ends up on us, and then we go home and think” okay i’m gonna have my beers to help me calm down and settle in for the night,” that is you coping with what you happen in your day and that is not healthy because you’re not dealing with what you experienced in the work day. 

 

  You’re not dealing with it up front, whatever you’re feeling and you’re just choosing to throw the bottle in push it down call it a day we’re good, go to sleep, wake up to do it all over again. You’re going to resent your job your family life’s going to fall apart and you’re going to either do something drastic or your health is literally just going to decline until you give up on everything.

 

  I’ve watched people let their emotions control them and then they give up and it’s because they used alcohol as a coping skill. I know some of you out there say” hey i’m a talented drinker I have those skills I can do it,” no you can’t, it’s bad for you. If you’re using it to drown out your emotions it needs to stop. If you need somebody to talk to you have me, you have my team, you have your peers around you, and there are therapists as well.

 

  We need to change the culture of using alcohol as the go-to for making us feel better. How about be a kind caring person to your friends and create a positive community. I know I sound like this utopian believing, mr.head-up-in-the-clouds but guess what I’ll tell you one thing that I realized from living here in Hawaii, that there are a lot of people who are kind, supportive and they actually care about your emotions and your feelings. You don’t need to be here to experience that, just find those people talk to them. When you feel like you need a drink give them a call.

 

  We can’t take the easy route to deal with our emotions, because it just makes the road that much harder in the long run.

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You Don’t Need To Fix Me

You Don't Need To Fix Me

 You don’t need to solve the problem, you don’t need to fix it when I tell you what’s going on. I just need somebody there to listen to me and show that they care, that’s what’s the most important thing.If’s may take a bit to gather up the strength and energy to finally talk to somebody let them know how I’m feeling.Many times the first go-to is to want to solve the problem but that’s not what I need right now. What I actually want is somebody to listen and to some degree to empathize. You may not completely understand exactly how I feel, or you may absolutely understand.

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  The point is, it’s not about giving the absolute solution or what you believe to be the way to solve this problem. It does not take care of anything by pointing out how itwould be all better if. It maybe the exact way to fix whatever’s going on but that’s not helpful, that just means you weren’t really listening. If you’re listening you’d understand that out of all that whole conversation,
i’m hurting,that’s it. The situation hurt me.

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 You may have the solution, I may have the solution but the situation bothered me and I need somebody to talk to.

  If you’re that person that i’m opening up to, just listen and try and see through the eyes of someone who is being hurt by the situation, not by somebody who needs the answer. 

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The Worst Case Scenario Always Seems To Happen

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The Worst Case Scenario Always Seems To Happen Almost everybody deals with this, believing that the worst case scenario is gonna happen. Anything happens,you’re just your mind goes to boom,

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How To Gain Power Over Intrusive Thoughts

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How To Beat Negative Thoughts

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How To Beat Negative Thoughts Our subconscious thoughts are considered to be passive. For the most part, they are out of our control. We do not just get to pick

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Know When It’s Over: Partnership Dead

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In a relationship, we want to do whats best for our significant other and be the best version of ourselves when we are with them. Trying to show them all

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What’s The Use Of Feeling Blue

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You Can’t Stop Someone From Cheating, But You Can Do This…

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The Worst Case Scenario Always Seems To Happen

The Worst Case Scenario Always Seems To Happen

Almost everybody deals with this, believing that the worst case scenario is gonna happen. Anything happens,you’re just your mind goes to boom, the worst thing can happen. What’s gonna happen? The worst thing of course because that makes the most sense right?

Every time something bad has happened to us it was the worst possible situation that could have happened?It was definitely the way we could have imagined it right? The issue is how do we get our minds to stop going to that place where we’re just believing the absolute worst?

“I’m gonna get a zero on the test.”
“He’s gonna break up with me because he thinks somebody else is attractive.”
“I’m gonna die because it’s raining outside”

  

  Believing in the worst negative scenario is just unnecessary, but it’s easier said than done and obviously by just saying it’s unnecessary doesn’t mean that bam it’s no longer an issue. The point is that we need to recognize
in that moment when that thought pops up because you know it in your rational mind that the worst case won’t happen, but your emotional mind is getting caught up in the possibilities.

  You know when you go into that test you’re not getting an absolute zero unless you literally don’t answer a thing on it. You knew that every time you went driving in the rain you didn’t die. The scenarios are endless and you already know what worst case scenarios you’ve played in your own head for countless situations and did it actually happen?
Not only that, did you actually realize afterwards, wow it wasn’t that bad.

 

  We need to prepare ourselves as soon as those thoughts pop up in your head we need to reassure, okay the worst case scenario is not going to happen and then here’s examples why. Your brain is a sassy b**** and it does not like to be told no or told that it’s wrong but if you repeatedly show it information that proves that it’s wrong, it can’t do anything but accept the fact that it’s wrong.

If you keep showing it multiple instances where it is wrong then it will realize that it has made a mistake and that the worst case scenario is not going to happen. The world’s not going to end, the worst case scenario never happens and you can handle it but you need to start by being proactive when the thought comes up remind yourself why that thought is wrong.

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Feeling Unwanted, Unloved? Do this…

26 Feb 2022 No Comments

Feeling Unloved,Feeling Unwanted… Do This   Journaling is one of the best types of calming methods/coping mechanisms that i’ve seen. Therapists that I’ve worked with

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Bottling It Up Works Super Well

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Bottling It Up Doesn’t Work   We’re going to focus on one of those negative coping skills that is honestly one of the worst things

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Why Am I Like This?

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Why Am I Like This? We’re really going to address how family can be the most toxic thing in your life. Now when I say

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How About We Stop Saying

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Stop Saying You know those things that people say that you’re just like, “why do you think that is socially acceptable to say that?”We’re gonna

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Alcohol And Mental Health

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Alcohol And Mental Health   Alcohol, So many people seem to love it. It seems like where I grew up everybody loved alcohol there was

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You Don’t Need To Fix Me

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You Can’t Stop Someone From Cheating, But You Can Do This…

How To Stop Someone From Cheating

Many of us have gone through the dreadful pain of being cheated on. It is something that truly can just break your heart and make you completely cynical toward finding another who will only want you. This negativity repeating when you are with someone that you are debating on taking the relationship to the next level with.

 

  The past may be painful and it may haunt you, but your future love did not hurt you.Just like you would always wish to be treated as if you wouldn’t harm another, your future significant other deserves the same respect.Even though your trust was broken by the last one, doesn’t mean the next one will do the same. But one thing is for sure, if you continuously question your next love, and try to control them to attempt in avoiding them cheating, you will lose them.

 
  Sometimes trust is the hardest thing in the world, but if you expect any relationship to do well and grow, you need to give a little trust even if it feels like history will repeat itself.

So when you try to think, how to stop someone from cheating, we cannot control others. 

We can just control us.

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Why Do I Do This?

Why Do I Do This?

When you ask yourself, Why Do I Do This? Why Do I Respond This Way? 

Every single one of our traits can be traced back to an event, series of events, family, or from insight taught by another. Look at our traits that may be seen as toxic, like the lack of trust for others, fear of groups,  hatred of types of people, judgement, lashing out and so on.

 

  These traits may have been useful at one point in our lives as protection mechanisms. They were once ways to keep our emotions and body safe from the external environment. The problem is, they still exist, even when we are no longer in a time of crisis or we are at least not subject to the harmful experiences as frequently as before.

 

  These traits now create more distance between us an others, and overriding them is quite difficult. But, you have to make the effort because even though the trait served its purpose at the time it may no longer serve a purpose now. So will I close myself off from others to “protect myself”? Will I judge others when they too may have circumstances that lead to their specific behaviors?Or Will I become more conscious of my defenses and try to work through them?And will I try to be accepting and understanding of others when they are behaving in a defensive matter?

 

  Everyone has a reason for their behavior, and everyone deserves to have others attempt to be accepting and understanding.

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Feeling Unwanted, Unloved? Do this…

26 Feb 2022 No Comments

Feeling Unloved,Feeling Unwanted… Do This   Journaling is one of the best types of calming methods/coping mechanisms that i’ve seen. Therapists that I’ve worked with

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Bottling It Up Works Super Well

24 Feb 2022 No Comments

Bottling It Up Doesn’t Work   We’re going to focus on one of those negative coping skills that is honestly one of the worst things

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Why Am I Like This?

22 Feb 2022 No Comments

Why Am I Like This? We’re really going to address how family can be the most toxic thing in your life. Now when I say

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