This is an extremely important message to the loved ones trying to fix the problem.We feel like we have to look to solve the problem when others come to us. Trying to push reason into the situation. When really that is the last thing that they need. Especially depending on how fresh the wound is, they do not need a fix, they just need a friend. Time for resolution can come later on when it hurts less, many times you just need to be able to talk about what happened and let your emotions out.
After a good period of time where they can cool down, then that may be the time where you can come up with a plan of attack. But honestly that is only at the blessing of the person. They may understand why things happened, what they may have done wrong, or what they should have done. When we remind them of those things while trying to fix the problem, it may actually make things worse.
Being heard is one of the best feelings in the world. This causes us to trust that we are not alone and that someone loves us. It may seem so small, just lending an ear, but it is one of the most overlooked things in most relationships.
If you have someone that’s hurting, don’t be upset because they don’t want to hear the solution or how easy it’ll be to fix it. Just be the loved ones that are there to listen and offer support, that’s all that truly matters.
Below are a few tips and tricks to be a better active listener. Everyone can use a little help in this department. Even applying one or two of these methods to your daily life can reap incredible results in your relationships.